Everything People Taught Me.

Endings -

As sad and painful they may be at times, I think it’s important to look at endings as good things. Perhaps you’ve outgrown the moment and you’ve gained all you were meant to in that phase of your life. I’ve only experienced a few really difficult goodbyes and severed ties - and even then, I’ve been able to find optimism on the other side of losing those bonds. It was in losing my claim on others that l learned to set and respect boundaries and that I couldn’t expect people to live up to the expectations I’d create around their position in my life and vice versa. The harsh reality is that some people lack the capacity to even show up for themselves consistently, and if that translates to your needs not being met or if you are one of those people - honor that as a space to grow within.

There is also the notion that healing from ending relationships should operate on a distinct timeline - but healing from past experiences and traumas is not a linear experience. We have to allow ourselves to grieve and miss the situations and bonds that didn’t pan out or last as long as we’d hoped - those reminders are there to keep us moving and focusing forward. We have the potential of learning so much from letting go, but we also need to remember so we don’t forget - how to better care for ourselves or show up more for others the next time around. The best part about endings is that they always lead us someplace new.

This is Everything People Taught Me.

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